Love gives us safety, peace, relaxation, happiness, freedom and health

What does "Do the Right Thing" mean: Do things out of love and respect of others, would I ask myself, my daughter, sister or mother do it for another man? if not, why should I do it to another person?

• Jeff's face off with Parkinson's:
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• Love somebody means to sacrifice everything unconditionally to make that person happy and successful without expecting anything in return and regardless that person deserves your love or not, just like mothers love to their kids. Love between a couple should be stronger than mothers' love to their kids.
  Love somebody gladly who doesn't love you is charity. e.x. Love abusive or mentally illed spouse or children
  Others tell you to divorce abusive spouse, but abandonment/divorce is not love, why nobody tell you to abandon your autistic kids or kids with down syndromes?
• sex/money/power/fame/drug pleasures are short lived, but peace of mind, certainty of our destiny, joy/relaxation in God's steadfast love/beauty/truth is eternal at least cover our life times. pursue life long love/truth/beauty from God rather than flicky hypocritical selfish pleasures/lies from man, treating everybody with love regardless your love will be returned or not.
• LOVE, only LOVE can change a person, only LOVE can change the world, only LOVE can make impossible possible. That is why mothers can raise autistic kids to become college professors!
  Miracles will happen when you persist to LOVE and never give up loving a person.
• When you see how a mom loves her kids then you understand love. A kid can have mental/physical/character/moral illness, can be selfish/cold/ugly/loveless/angry/violent/etc, i.e. not lovable at all, but mom never abandon/give up her kids, sacrifice everything of hers to give him a better life, after all, her kid is part of her, that is why she could love him as herself.
  Bible says woman is half of man and command man loves woman more than woman loves her kids.But instead of oxytocin God gave man/woman sexual desires to motivate such love, but man only loves the sex instead of the woman and vice visa. Couples are supposed to love their spouses more than their kids, but I see the contrary in reality.
  99.99% couples are coworkers, no love, if he/she doesn't fulfill his/her job responsibilities then he/she is fired, i.e. divorce. Have you seen a mom kicks her kid out because he is disabled needs mom's life time care? mom's love for kids won't change even if kids go to jail, so it is a lie that I loved her initially but then she changed so is my love. It is also a lie that I don't know you so I can't love you, Mom knows nothing of a new born baby but her love to him is the strongest at his birth. Mom teach her kid to become better person, Man should be a righteous loving role model/influence to his wife.
  Pretend others as yourself or as your kids will motivate you to love and do nice things to others. it seem hard to love others especially love those who are selfish takers, but God commands us to love regardless. The more love u give, the more love u receive. Galatians 6:7:A man reaps what he sows. If you sow love, then you reap love, i.e. The world runs exactly as bible prescribed forever. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hjf278z1atY
  We run for people who love us just like a kid run for his mom, we run away from people who don't love us. That is why divorces happen. No money,sex,power can buy love. Love can be cultivated, just like kid develops life time love for his mom. You feel relaxed, happy, free,comfortable, open, warm in winter, cool in summer, understood, close, connected, safe to disclose all your dark/dirty secrets with the person you love.
  If you make up your mind to work hard to earn somebody's love, even if that person didn't love you initially, but eventually he/she will. Just as a child is stuck with his mother's love when he is young, once he grows up and runs away from the mother to experience the cold and loveless world then he will always go back to mother for love. just as bible says: Love never fails.
  I was in a walmart bathroom, a mother was changing diapers for her kid, the smell was overwhelmingly disgusting and I just wanted to run away, but the mom was happily singling to the kid while looking at, smelling and wiping off his shits. She has to do this 10 times a day for 2 years sometimes, for life/50 years. Even if she doesn't change kid, kid won't die, but because of love, she takes on the suffer instead of the kid. It is apparent that the baby doesn't know/remember anything like this ever happened in his early life, thus can't appreciate/return the love/hardship/sacrifice mother endured in raising him. Mother can't make baby promise anything before love and sacrifice for him. she can't even be sure that the kid will come to visit her when she is old. i.e. if you are expecting a return for a love, then it is not love anymore but a loveless transaction. There is only one kind of love, either you love or you don't regardless who is the benefactor of your love. Love is 100% selfless happy/willing offer/sacrifice, like Jesus' death to save us, or a stranger jump into water to save somebody else.
  Western culture brainwash everybody that sex is love, thus nobody understands love, creates lots social tragedies/chaos: divorces, single mothers/fathers, many lonely people.
  Nobody is perfect, everybody has defects that we have to put up with.
  I notice American guys like to stereotype women, all women are the same, all men are the same regardless which part of world we are from---we are all sinful. Americans are really wasting their lives by constantly divorcing and playing dating games: grass is not greener in another person--By dating, they constantly try out different sex partners, after a few minutes of sexual pleasure they have to spend 23 hours daily with lonely cold heartless emptiness. Once we run into people that we are attracted to, then settle down with him/her and start to build love from ground up, then you will be filled with love/joy and companionship all your life, isn't it how human has been doing since the beginning of time until 50 years ago? i.e. don't give up your partner easily, treating others as you would want to be treated in their place will ultimately lead to your own happiness.
  
• If you are looking for free love&fun from others without any commitment&headaches&risks, then go for dancing to enjoy beautiful music, graceful fun play, smiles, gentle looks, safe soft rhythmic touches, relaxation, stress elimination, exercise, friendly companionship! Plus it taught me how to interact with people pleasantly: relax mind&body to be soft/patient thus flexible/agreeable to change with others, look people in their eyes and smile to show respect, don't look anybody but your partner to show respect and be a good team player! Treat it as entertainment&relaxation&enjoyment instead of technique competition or showing off self. Without fear or stereotypes, ask everybody in the room to dance with you politely, if rejected, move on to next don't hold onto rejections, promiscuity in dance is fun refreshing and highly encouraged. Go into dance not bar without any expectations but an open mind that you will interact with new foreign partners, so leave the dance without any disappointments but happily refreshed mind and body.
  We are living among people, make yourself enjoyable then you will enjoy people! Instead of drinking parties we should have dance parties, if men can wrestle/box/football with men, then men can dance with men! If women's beauty&gentleness&kindness&caring&humility can melt men's hearts, won't men's beauty&cleanness&gentleness&caring&humility melt women's hearts?!
  But dance can't (nothing can) replace the love between a wife and husband, which should be stronger and longer lasting than a mother's love to her kids. God is smart enough to make any vagina fits any pennis perfectly well, no need to sex with different people to find sexually compatible partner, it is the 99.99% non-sex related interactions that is causing problems in our 99.99% life. If you insist on sex different people then you are risking STDs and problems. People are futilely looking for love by loudly bragging themselves, nobody says: I am here to listen to your problems and I want to help/love you unconditionally, to get love we need to learn from dogs: give loyal love unconditionally first. All the Don't-do-it" in bible like no divorce/premarital sex seem too strict, but in the end, it protects us from being jailed in life long troubles. Americans are the most free, but why are we the unhappiest and most lonely and mentally illed in the world?
• Being loved is nice, but love others make you happy, too. Let go of self-centerness but embrace and love others despite others are not lovable will empty all negativity in you and make you a happy man!
• Even when it is cold, cloudy, rainy, flowers are prematurely damaged by frost, but as you stand in nature surrounded by God's creations: light/beauty/life, you can feel God's presence and touch: peace, healing, happiness and serenity fill your mind/heart and chase off negativity, depression and stress.
• Dance is the highest and longest climax, every cell, every drop of blood, every muscle is dancing, blood rush to your face and brain, all stress, troubles, negativity flee, you spin/swirl in happiness until you are exhausted. Beautiful warm music, smiles and eyes like sunshine shine into your heart. Happy is Dance, High is Dance, Escape is Dance!
• We always want to be loved by parents, brothers/sisters, teachers, classmates, beautiful guys/girls, husband, wife, children, colleagues, bosses and etc, and our motivations of doing everything is to be loved. Nobody ever wanted to sacrifice his own desires to love others. Only Jesus came to sacrifice everything of his including his life to give love to all. This is opposite from self-centered human beings. Today is valentine's day, instead of self pity on nobody is loving us, why not give love to others as penniless/effortlessly as saying "I love you"!
• Modernization get rid of agriculture also get rid of the need of men, women don't need men to survive anymore, women were made physically weaker, 200 years ago, women need men for protection and food. Men have much stronger sexual desires, and women are made physically appealing to provoke men to pursue . Too bad for men, the independence of women made it more difficult than ever for men to get sex. Men, don't argue that women are equally horny, NO, NO, lack of sex can drive men mentally ill, but I didn't see 1 woman was as horny as man, doesn't that mean women can't be aroused by touch? of course not. In male dominant society like muslim society, men keep their dominance by forbidding women to get education and work. So if you have daughters, get them to college and work. Independence is freedom and power.
• Love is selfless and unconditional. Why parents love their kids because kids are part of themselves, so loving ones own kids actually is loving oneself, i.e. selfish. Romantic love between man and woman in 90% cases are not true love, to fulfill ones desire for sex/companionship/economic security/protection and etc. If trades are not fair between the man/woman then divorces happen. Even for fierce beasts/lions/tigers, when they are horny, they are very gentle, tender and loving, once they get satisfied sexually, to fight for scarce food, they would kill females they just sexed with and eat their own infants. Humans have confused romantic love as love from the beginning of time, we are searching love out of selfish desires, thus, we marry selfish people and suffer. What goes around will come around, if we give out true selfless love then we will harvest true love. From Jesus we mainly learn what love is and how to love.
• Contra dance lesson: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lNatvaD9YKM
• The root cause of every problem is that we don't love God and we don't love each other, the root solution of every problem is: 1.Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind; and, 2. Love your neighbor as yourself. We always ask how I can love God, a spirit? First you need to understand love. If you pay attention to how mothers love their babies then you will understand love. 0-5 year old babies speak gibberish, but somehow their mothers understand them perfectly--mothers must have tried very hard to understand/satisfy their beloved. If you try to snatch babies from their mothers' arms, mothers will fight to death to defend them, if you say their babies are ugly/dumb then you just made yourselves the worst enemies of those mothers. So, first, read bible to understand who God/Jesus is and what they want of you--ha, they want you to love your neighbor as yourself. who is your neighbor, read Good Samaritan's story, your neighbor is everybody other than yourself. We are naturally narcissistic and selfish, which has been justified and promoted throughout times/cultures/locations. Narcissism brought about STDs, addictions, allergies, cancers, diabetes, lead poisons, global warming, depression/psychological disorders, gun violence/all violence/crimes. Before the advancements of technology, leprosy,virus/bacteria, dirty spirits caused suffering, but now new horrible suffering popup as quickly as technologies.We breathe same air/eat/drink with same utensils,wear same clothes, touch/kiss each other to show affection---we are a big family! In 1960s, medical professionals disallow parents to hold/kiss/breast feed their babies to prevent spread of diseases, then generations of cold hearted gun murderers were generated, disinfectants created allergies to every food, cleanness from mud/dirt created asthma,celiac, ibs and etc. Fear of being sued, people are cold/distant/business like to each other. We are in this bacteria/virus/illness filled pot together, instead of love/support each other to boost our defense to virus/bacteria, we are now creating fear/sufferings to each other because we love ourselves above God and others. Fear/PTSD/Stress weakens our defense to illness, Love/Compassion/Comradeship boost our immunity as scientific evidences have clearly shown. I am really puzzled 75% Americans are Christians, but the reality tells an opposite story. Just like you are the mother of a baby, when the baby is drowning, but you are too busy putting up makeups to take care of your baby. Only love can solve every problem.
• Feel people's desperation, hurt, hunger, loss, fear, insecurity, loneliness, rejection, and hopelessness, so you don't unknowingly/knowingly add more pain to them!
• After you totally forget yourself, then your self pity, envy, greed, loneliness and anger will magically disappear, and you will become a free and independent man/woman.
• You will also feel the love from your creator: whatever God gives you is the best, most beautiful and special, people that God put on your path is for you to love them, not to hurt them.
• To make the world a better place, the only way is to love.
• Well intended Massages give people comfort and relaxation, so massages can be used to disolve bitterness/grudges/anger.

The secret of life long happiness only lies in seeking God.
We will not find long lasting true love in humans, may it be spouses, children or friends. Sometimes, people can give us temporary/glimpse of true love, but we will end up suffer withdrawal syndrome if they take it away from us.
Driven by sexual desires, we start seeking stranger's love at very young age before we understand how to give true unconditional love, and how to accept true unconditional love.
And we were trapped in disappointments, hurt, pain, rejection/abandonment from others, and giving the same sufferings to others throughout our lives.
First seek love and happiness from God. There is no pain only true joy and happiness if we do so.
God gives us beautiful life/body/flowers/sky/moon/landscape/oceans/pets, wisdom, fresh air, water, foods, intelligence, abilities, etc and etc.
The most handsome guy can't give 0.000001% of what God can give to a girl, why feel heart broken if you can't get a guy's attention? Look to the invisible most magnificant "boyfriend" in the sky, he is there for you always.
It is true that God can't give you kisses, hugs, sex, can't take you to restaurants/vacations, can't give you a fancy car/house, but the pain/damage can be long lasting after short lived pleasure in a loveless relationship. So seek true love first, don't forget you always have God's true love as backup if you can't find it in man/woman or been rejected or abandoned by man/woman. You should treat man/woman's rejection as no big deal. If you are rejected, avoid seeing the person will make recover very fast, that is why don't date anybody from work/school/church. I gurantee you that our weak mind will fail our work/school/spirituality if we do mix up serious businesses with personal emotions.
Even with love, in a happy marriage, only 10% time a couple spent pleasing each other, 90% time is hard work, because of love, pain is worth the effort.
Why ordinary people divorce? 1. There is no love anymore, the pain becomes unbearable. 2, or, there is no pleasure anymore, love alone is insufficient to motivate hardwork. 3, Worse, neither love nor pleasure is there.
It really takes a saint to stay married to somebody he/she doesn't love.
Pleasure includes sexual, financial, social status, fame and power.
Smart spiritual people downplay pleasure and stay away from it purposefully, but if you are lucky enough to be given true love from a girl/guy, then go for it, develop the love with patience first before jump to pleasure and ruin it quickly.
There is nothing wrong with seeking pleasure, e.x. David, he was very handsome and successful, God didn't mind giving him a lot of wives and concubines for him to enjoy, then because David made pleasure his first priority, he brought sword into his house for generations.
If you date and marry somebody from the same church, then the pressure and social shame is much greater if the marriage fails, we are not perfect, so marriage is not perfect, so it is impossible to demand marriage to be successful. There have been horrible cover ups of unhappy marriages, abuses of spouses, kids and families in churches. It is a lie if somebody says he has a magic pill to heal all the unhappy marriages. Many times, divorce is the only savior of the broken hearted.
Looking for love from man/woman is a roller coaster ride, buckle up and don't get heart attacks! Or don't seek it but pray it will drop from sky, strangely enough, in 99% cases the girl/guy that you are dreaming of do drop from sky.--So, Have Faith! Your heavenly father knows exactly what you want, and he doesn't forget it, and he will drop him/her in front you when the time is right.
But, if God doesn't drop you a dream girl/guy to be with, then you should feel even more special because God is keeping you for himself, look at Jesus and 12 disciples, none of them were married or had girl friends!

Luke 6:27-36: Love for Enemies

What is Love, how do I love is really loving?

Whenever we talk about Love, people think of sex. No, No, No, Love of sex or food or money or an activity or an object is narcissism, still only to satisfy oneself.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

In another word, if you treat others with patience, kindness, humulity, respect, compassion, understanding, forgiveness, help, honesty, trust, faith, support, protection and responsibility, then you are a loving person.

Why God is Love and Love is the solution to every problem.
Have you ever wondered how life came into existence? When you go to nature then you see the creator. We humans, only want to make things that can benefit us. Nobody wants to draw a beautiful painting or compose a stunning music or create a search engine just to give away for free. But this creator definitely creates and gives away sophisticated lives for free. But once created, every creature is busy on its own life and not only doesn't benefit the creator but totally forget about him.
Even more crazy is that despite being forgotten and unappreciated, the creator sent his son to suffer and die for his creation and save humans from eternal suffering.
This is uncomprehensible unless you think from the point of a parents: parents give birth to their kids, and they give love to the kids and train the kids to love them and love each other, but kids instead hurt and kill each other for money/power. Because you love them dearly, instead of punishing them, you sacrifice yourself to save their lives.
Whenever you are stuck or frustrated or depressed, try open your heart and love, then your problem and depression will be solved.
Definition of Perfect Love
Don't ever get cosmetic surgery, whatever God gives you is the best and most beautiful to you, don't let any human hands alter your body.
Don't sleep around, it is very suffering and shameful to get STD. It is healthier if we try out different foods, but if we sleep around we get STD! So sexuality is not meant to be promiscuous. Being unpopular and alone is better than being tormented by STD and the worry of getting STD.
All kinds of substance abuse and addiction of course damage our mind and body, why want to try them out then live in suffering? The danger of addiction is much bigger than the benefit of alcohol so don't even sip one drop of it, if alcohol is essential to our lives, God would have given us hunger feeling for alcohol, so I don't think alcohol is necessary.

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